"[My relationships were] like I was in these movies where the script was only half-written. When I’d get to the end of this half-script, the other actors wanted me to ad lib. But I had never gotten the hang of that. That’s why these movies were always box-office failures. Six of them in the past twenty years. I always blew the lines." ~ from my horrible first novel "Learn How To Pretend." (unpublished)(obviously)
Sunday, October 07, 2012
Think before speaking
I've tried to keep this in mind, but often failed on the second one. Too many times in my life, and especially in my marriage -- especially because I failed to listen -- I spoke unnecessarily. It's a codependency thing, no doubt. And attempt to fix, to "heal", to control.
My advice to you is that you cultivate the skills of a good listener.