"[My relationships were] like I was in these movies where the script was only half-written. When I’d get to the end of this half-script, the other actors wanted me to ad lib. But I had never gotten the hang of that. That’s why these movies were always box-office failures. Six of them in the past twenty years. I always blew the lines." ~ from my horrible first novel "Learn How To Pretend." (unpublished)(obviously)

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

An Enlightened Breakup? REPOST

I felt it was a time for a repost on this.
From MindBodyGreen.com

8 Rules for an Enlightened Breakup

When it very recently became clear that my husband and I love each other, but also saw it was time to get divorced, we realized that we had a choice. We could to do it consciously, on our own terms, or we could live the conventional whirlwind of grief, despair and devastation. 

Divorce and other breakups may never be “easy,” but you can eliminate a lot of the difficulty by setting rules of engagement and healthy boundaries. When each partner is operating from a place of loving, honoring and caring for the self, the possibility exists for both partners to enter the sacred space of separation—just as sacred as the marriage ritual itself. Divorce is a death, yes—but like all other deaths it is a rebirth as well. Be sure to bless each other on your separate paths, and thank each other for the necessary steps in your evolution that the many lessons of the marriage offered you. We are all students of life, and what an honor to have gotten to share the journey with a kindred spirit.
May these rules bless you along your separate paths, and protect you from unnecessary sorrow:

1. Check your mental operating system. 
2. Self-care is your backbone.
3. What you focus on grows.
4. Stress is an altered state of consciousness.
5. Exercise is your best friend.
6.  S-t-r-e-t-c-h it out.
7. Strengthen Tribal Bonds.
8. Live in Namaste. 
To read the complete article and get a better explanation of each of the items on the list, go to MindBodyGreen

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